Pleasant Acquaintance

People enter your life for a reason. The reason may be unknown to both, but I believe that everything is planned down to the dot.

It’s weird how out of all the people you meet in life, some people fail to make any impact on you and how in the other extreme some leave an everlasting impact.

Why this difference, I don’t know. But today I have been touched, touched very deeply by someone.

I am not sure if this is a one off thing or if anything will ever become of it. However, it has somehow changed who I am, and what I am capable of being.

Today, a new light has been lit within me. How long it will last I do not know. But, I shall follow it to wherever it takes me, for as long as it guides me and hope for the best.

This new perception of life has left me in a state where words are failing me, and emotions are unlimited. I just hope that this magic never wears off or even better that it is augmented by subsequent meetings.

Identity

"A man's identity is not best thought of as the way in which he is separated from his fellows but the way in which he is united with them."

People are meant to have certain characteristics that define their identity. I personally believe that if you care for a person, befriend a person, commit to a person or for that fact even emotionally relate to a person it is because of who that person is when you form a bond with them.

Having said this, what I fail to understand is why some people try to change others for their own benefits or according to their likes. I feel that if you connect with a person and decide upon befriending them or taking it to the next level, then it is your responsibility to accept that person for who he/she is and just as he/she is.

It is no wonder that there are an increasing number of broken relationships these days. I believe it is purely because of the demands placed by one person on another to change. It is quite obvious that after changing a person you may not share the same bond with them because they are no longer the person you identified with in the first place.

I do realize that this has exceptions. Sometime some people have some compulsive behavior problems or habits. In that case it becomes the moral duty of the friends or significant others to try and help that person to improve themselves instead of leaving them altogether. Moreover, a universal fact remains that nobody is perfect and that everyone has his/her flaws. Hence, what is important is not assessing a person on their flaws but their qualities.

In the end, the basic fact I wish to elude to is that before emotionally attaching yourself to a person be sure that you know about both their good points and bad, and once you commit either in terms of a friend or a partner then it is that your job to be with them through thick and thin.

It is said that, "every man is the architect of his own character", thus attempting to change a person for personal self interest or satisfaction takes away that person's right to be who they are meant to be.

Impressions

I fail to understand why people are so judgmental of others. With every glance we throw at a person, we form impressions of them at a subconscious level.

I have never believed in the saying that first impressions are the last impressions, simply I because I can personally never be characterized by this widely held belief and thus I am aware that for others this may be the same. However, sometimes first impression is all you’ve got because you don’t always have the time to clear people's incorrect impressions of you.

I have always tried to give individuals a chance to convey to me who they are, yet when it comes to me I have always found myself a prey of misconceptions.

The confidence with which I carry myself is seen as arrogance, whereas all I am doing is trying to hide all the insecurities within me and bring out my best. My silence is also mistaken as my egotism. People fail to recognize the reserved side of me and force opinions without giving me a chance.

I wonder how many people realize how hard it can be for some people to live their life like an open book. For some people bottling up is the only option and not everyone has the capability to exude warmth during the very first interaction. This by no means signifies that a person is incapable of being friendly.

I do realize that perhaps the problem lies within my inability to express myself accurately but, nonetheless, it would be comforting if at least one person could reach out and make an attempt to judge me based on not who I seem to be but who I am.

Who deserves what?

Ethics is an extremely complicated and controversial topic. The widespread yet diverse beliefs regarding what is wrong or right in a particular situation pose several moral dilemmas both large and small.

For those who follow the Sa Re Ga Ma Little Champs Reality Show, I wish to pose a moral dilemma.

Just recently the judges decided to give another chance to the previously eliminated kids. One of them will be brought back into the running for the 15 lakh scholarship, based on public demand. Both my parents expressed their wish of seeing Diwakar(the unfortunately blind kid from Delhi) return.

However, it is evident that he doesnt sing as well as some of the other kids he is running against, but my parents believe that he needs the scholarship and the future career opportunity more than any of the other kids.

I see what they mean but I wonder if that is a valid reason to give him an unfair advantage over the others. Logically speaking, it would make sense to expect the kid with the greatest merit to be brought back, because he/she deserves it more than Diwakar.

Now, I am not exactly a cold hearted person who doesn't sympathise with Diwakar. On the contrary, I would be really happy to see him being given another chance.

Nevertheless, the introduction of the subject ethics and values into my life, through my university courses has taught me to look at things from different perspectives. Hence, I bring into light this dilemma of mine after putting aside my own biases and preference.

So, the question I pose is: should Diwakar be given another chance just because of his physical diability? Is it ethically right to give him an unfair advantage over the others?

For those who would say that Diwakar doesnt DESERVE the unfair advantage, I would like to ask another conflicting question of whether Diwakar deserved to be blind in the first place?

Imaginings

...Some dream in vain...

......entrap themselves within the ambit of expressions such as: i wish..if only......

.........choosing to ignore the fact that certain things are simply never meant to be.........

Interesting lines/phrases from "The Kite Runner" by Khaled Hosseini

=> Children aren't coloring books. You don't get to fill them with your favorite colors


=> This was my one chance to become someone who was looked at, not seen, listened to, not heard.

=>I could feel the emptiness in Soraya's womb, like it was a living, breathing thing. It had seeped into our marriage, that emptiness, into our laughs, and our lovemaking. And late at night, in the darkness of our room, I'd feel it rising from Soraya and settling between us. Sleeping between us. Like a newborn child.

=> The aptness of a cliched saying is overshadowed by the nature of the saying as a cliche.
...his life of unrequited loyalty drifting from him like the windblown kites he used to chase.

=> Nothing wrong with cowardice as long as it comes with prudence

=> Perspective was a luxury when your head was constantly buzzing with a swarm of demons

Mundane workings of nature

For the one whose vision is cleared,

the sun brings no signs of hope,
even the moon fails to provide any solace.

Yet both rise and set in their timed manner,

reminding one of the mundane workings of nature.

Trapped

Entangled in an intricate web of meaningless words and complicated lies,
the eye searches for a means of escape.

One yearns not for the one who sings praise,
but for the one whose words carry meaning.

With the falling granuels in an hourglass,
Lost is the innocence,
Lost is the faith

What remains is merely the eversuspicious mind.

Advice

Expect nothing and you wont be disappointed

Trust no one and you will not be betrayed

Furthermore believe nothing and your faith will not be mocked


Proceed to build a wall around you to remove yourself from harm's play

but realize that it will deflect not only any sadness but also all the happiness coming your way

Pair of Wings

Attach to your heart a pair of wings,
let it fly, let it sing,
as it soars through the sky,
shed all inhibhitions and cease to be shy.

Attach to you heart a pair of wings,
let go of your past, let it not cling,
then all unpleasant memories will never return,
a bright promising future will be rewarded in turn.

Attach to your heart a pair of wings,
expand your horizons from within the enclosed ring,
learn to accept the truth, yet never resign to fate,
attempt to realise all your dreams because its never too late.

Attach to your heart a pair of wings,
observe everyday the sun shining,
with every storm, with every rain,
learn to grow stronger, learn to endure pain.

Understand that it is only through a lightened heart,
can one hope of making a truly new start,
so attach to your heart a pair of wings,
set it free; let it fly, let it sing...

Living the Unpredictable

Life brings change,
expectations beyond a range
Every dawn signals a new hope,
every dusk threatens to reduce its scope
Every step forward leaves the past behind,
yet memories of the past never cease to boggle the mind
The unexpected is always feared,
while the expected can sometimes be revered
What seems is often never true,
and the truth is like a puzzle without any clue
but thats what makes life worth living for,
attempting to discover what we are here for

Destiny

Moments spent with you,
always left an everlasting hue
You had the magical power,
that could pull me out of the blue

With you I laughed, I forgot all my troubles
With you I learned to walk even across sharp pebbles

Amongst us there was always a sense of ease,
we could always talk however we pleased
Somewhere there was this unbreakable bond,
Of you I soon became exceedingly fond

Yet as fate would have it,
our destiny denied it
we were forced to walk our separate ways,
distance ourselves within a few days

Now my heart aches for you day and night,
I cannot forget you try all I might
in my misery I am left with no other choice,
but to live the rest of my life without hearing your soothing voice...